Among the moments that frighten the future newlyweds the most, there’s surely how to set up the tables
for the wedding/ there’s surely the guest-seating question (io proporrei la seconda variante).
Indeed, the decision on how to place the guests in the reception hall, how to set up the tables, thus lending
more or less “importance” to a guest compared to another one, is never easy.
There exists a method for not making life too difficult.
Of course, to decide for assigned seats for all the guests is generally not obligatory, however, this is strongly
recommended, in order not to create embarrassing situations when taking their seats.
Moreover, to create one’s tableau de marriage has become an essential element.
So, where to start? First of all, don’t let the discouragement overwhelm you, well begun is half done. Move
forward with calm, arrange a table and complete it before moving on to the next one.
Start off with the table of the newlyweds.
If in this occasion you won’t be able to seat next to everyone, the best thing to do is to place the table in a
central position in the reception hall, in order to have a view more or less on every guest.
The bride and groom may decide to seat by themselves or choose to share their table with the maids of
honour and/or with the parents. This will result in a great advantage when placing them, which is often not
an easy job.
Once you have organized the table of the newlyweds, you can proceed with setting up the guests.
Proceed according to “macro-categories”: relatives, friends, colleagues.
Within their sphere you could arrange some sub-categories based on the age, of the hobbies and, in
general, of the mutual interests of your guests. By doing so, you may create a nice mix between people
who already know each other and new faces.
This does not have to scare you: a wedding is the optimal occasion to meet new people!
Lastly, in order not to make the reception hall too empty or too filled, you need to pay attention to the
total number of tables and, one step backward, to the number of guests. You should consider around 8/10
people per table; it’s better to avoid grouping only 5 people or trying at any cost to put together 12 guests,
with no room for the living space.
How to? By creating a tableau in line with the leitmotiv of the wedding. It will be fun finding a thousand of
options to name the tables, from the most traditional names to the most sought-after ones.
In order to make the planning of the tables easier, provide yourself with a poster and some post-its. Draw
on the poster the shape of the tables and on the post-it the name of every guest: place the post-it notes on
the poster and enjoy exchanging the seats until you find the optimal combination. It will be much easier!
If among the guests of the wedding there are kids already independent in eating, you could even create one
or more tables especially for them: they will surely be happy to laugh, play and eat all together, as if they
were at school or at the kindergarten.
Always ask for permission to their parents before giving confirmation to the venue: not everybody likes to
have their children distant. In general, it may be a good idea.
For you to feel more relaxed, it may be better to assign to the table one or more babysitters, who would
help the kids to eat, thus not making too much of a mess. Their parents will surely appreciate this a lot!
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